Monday, October 20, 2014

What is your real job???

Your children need your presence more than your presents.”

                                                                                            -Jesse Jackson

How to be a good parent is the question and issue all over the world. We often tend to forget the real definition of parent and value of being responsible. Whenever we are asked about our real job, we name the organization in which we work which is not true. Our primary job starts at home. Our responsibility is as a father, mother, son, daughter, brother and sister. The job we do at our work place be it in private, government or corporation is our secondary job which we do to fulfill the real job that is job at home.

Now a days, with modernization, people are getting exposed to foreign culture were the extended family network is put in verge of extinction and people take it for granted. Some people substitute their responsibility of being parents and giving time to their children with money. Today, most of the office goers do not sense the true meaning of being with family and fulfill their job rather take their secondary job primacy over the real one. Some come home and  instead of taking the  responsibility of sharing value and time with family, they bring workplace issue and emotional stress in the  family which effect whole family members.

Bhutan had no serious issue few decades ago as we had a very strong family network. Those were times, when parents and children spent more time together. Both parents and children knew each other’s problem and strength.  Harmony existed in the family despite low income.

Children seek parent’s attention the most when they are young.  Whatever attention they received will be returned back to parents later.  If a child does not get the attention he/she needs, or are left with no response, the child loses hope and stop trying new things.The alternative a child take is get attention from  friends. However,the question of getting spoiled or not arises,  depending on type of friends they choose.

“To be in your children's memories tomorrow,You have to be in their lives today.” ― Barbara Johnson.

BBS 2 took great step to solve this issue by hosting a new program not long ago, both in English and Dzongkha that is “DO YOU KNOW YOUR CHILD” in English and “BUZHI DHA THUENDREL” in Dzongkha which I felt is good to advocate the message. We need to collectively raise this issue and solve it by educating the parents at present and upcoming parents.

Every one of us needs to know the importance  of understanding our child; we need to realize our primary responsibility. There are more important things in life than money and work.

Home.................................... Your primary job
Parents/son/daughter/brother/sister.............. Your primary responsibility
 Organization you are working............................... Your secondary job
Your profession................................ Your secondary responsibility


  1. Sir...It awakened me upon going through your beautiful article on the subject. Yes, we being Bhutanese tend to forget everything at times. Even the primary responsibilities that we needed to carry on as father, mother and so on...So, on it you have well established the relation and its simply wonderful one...thanks

  2. thank you sancha sir for going through my article la